Is it human nature to always seek the "upper hand", even (probably especially) in romantic relationships? It seems we never want to feel vulnerable, and determine it's safer if we keep the other partner on uneven footing--always capitalizing on opportunities to keep the balance in our favour. How weak of us.

How we would flourish if we could surrender, trust in the other person not to hold us over a barrel for any trespass. Can you imagine? I wonder if it's ever been truly achieved. It's funny/sad to think of, but I've implemented this--to at least some degree--in every love relationship I've ever had. Trouble is, my partners never seemed to share my lofty ideal.

Some might argue that it keeps things in check, and it does, because if the parties in question aren't on exactly the same page, somebody's going to get bludgeoned. They think--and rightly so--that if they both keep fighting for position from one moment to the next the happiness & hurt will probably even out in the end. Oh joy, classic human, I'll take a guaranteed intermittent pain rather than the potential for extended pain.

Meh.

Come on, let's collectively grow a spine & love, rather than "love light". Huzzah.

Justin | 10:33 PM